FOR THE MEN; PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE.

After my post about preparing for marriage for the ladies, I was asked about the men....phew!
The truth is that 75% of men don't actually have time for things like this, so whether you write it or not, it's still the ladies that will end up reading it.....#FACT.
Men are wired/configured for some things bigger than emotional stuff. That’s why most men are not usually seen as being romantic.

If you want to make a good husband, here are some tips:
1. INVOLVE GOD. For every young man that wants a successful marriage, first things first, please, involve God. If you can't make out time for God, you are in for a bigger wahala. No kidding..... You want to wed in a church, why?....God factor. You want to wed in a mosque, why? God factor. So, believe it or not, without God, you are not going to make a successful marriage. Hence, learn to fast and pray as a bachelor.....in fact, that you are in a great relationship with a lady is not enough, that relationship can crash any minute. It's only when God is involved that you both can learn to tolerate, endure, and live together as married couple after the wedding.
2. RESPECT HER. You must put aside your pride and ego and learn to respect a lady. Only a man that can treat a lady fine can make a good husband. This is another hard one for the men. Most single guys don't have much respect for the ladies. You only act nice when you need a favour from her, but at the long run, we all know how it goes. So, if you can't do this, you are not yet prepared.
3. APPRECIATE HER. Learn to appreciate a lady. Women can so much love you, care for you, go to any extent to defend you if you know how to care and show her appreciations....even over very little things. In appreciating her, also learn to say you are sorry when you wrong her.
4. DON’T LIE. If you can't learn to come out clean before your woman, then be prepared for plenty of problems in your marriage. Start on time to let her know your capacity, let her know what you can do and what you can't do, let her know what you can afford and what you can't afford. If you had a terrible past, find a way to explain to her why she has to believe that you are a changed man and stick to the new man you profess. Lies and deceit destroys a marriage faster than any other factor.
5. NEVER CHEAT ON HER. Hmmm..... now someone is not finding it easy anymore, be cool. It’s not easy but it’s going to help you more if you can do that. Cheating on your spouse makes her lose regard and respect for you. It makes her never to trust you again. I don’t think you really want to live with a hostile woman because when a woman stops loving you, she starts sucking you. (Na you go run o!)
6. PREPARE YOUR MIND FOR MARRIAGE. Brothers, go and start reading books on marriage and great relationships, listen to audios on marriage, attend seminars, start preparing your mind now. A friend asked me why I allowed my wife to decide where we will base, I told him, only a married man can understand that choice that I made. He laughed, but today, he is preparing for his wedding and funny enough, he is wedding at a city where neither him no his fiancée resides, why?.... that’s where she wants it. He is going to relocate after their wedding, why?..... that’s how she wants it. When he came asking for my advice, I told him, if you love your woman, argue reasonably and sensibly. Always be open with her, if relocating is going to bring you two closer and make you both grow, do it. Always think of what will benefit her in all you plan to do.
7. ENHANCE YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS. For every marriage, good communication is a life wire. When you communicate well, both of you understand yourselves better. When the communication is not valued, the relationship dies. Truth be told, no one knows your heart except you open up.
8. BUILD YOUR FINANCE. This is a must. You need money to make love work. You need money to take care of the kids. You need money to shop and take care of your wife, rent or build a house, drive your dream cars, etc. YOU NEED MONEY. So, get it and use it wisely. Also, remember, when you have money, you can appreciate her with gifts. So, MAKE MONEY.
9. BE STRONG IN DIFFICULT TIMES. When this are not rosy, when their is hardship, your woman needs your courage to make it through such times. Don't be the type that will easily give up and start drinking or shying away from responsibilities. Such times are meant to bond you more than break you. ONLY STRONG MEN MAKE IT THROUGH SUCH TIMES.
10. BE A HAPPY MAN. Happiness is a choice. Only happy people make a happy couple and marriage. Learn to be happy always. It will help you to overlook a lot of flaws in your woman. When you choose happiness, you have chosen a path to greatness.

In a nutshell, marriage is a serious business. If you must marry, mean it.